When mistakes happen or the unexpected occurs, often our first instinct is to blame someone else. This holds especially true in the business world. Mistakes are a part of life and business. It would be strange, in fact, if everything ran perfectly. If we open our hearts and minds, we can learn from mistakes and they can transform into valuable lessons.We can plan things perfectly and something will inevitably go wrong. But those who are in the top positions often find it hard to accept this fact. Many times, frustration at the disruption results in lashing out at others. Very rarely do we – especially top level leaders – look inwards to find out why something goes awry.
I often found myself in this very situation of blaming others for difficulties. I wanted things done in a certain manner and when this failed to happen, I became upset. By shifting the blame, I unwittingly became a victim of myself and my habits.
I was satisfying my own ego – to the detriment of the overall organization. When this happens, it would be nice if we could remove ourselves from the situation and experience how we behave as an outsider. Everything becomes clear and we become aware of how our attitude affects others.
Because by blaming others, we do not solve the problem. In fact, things are made worse because there is no change in the person being blamed and the problem remains unsolved. I decided that I would no longer act like a victim. Instead, I chose to take responsibility and look for solutions to issues.
Good leaders make solid decisions, stand behind those ideas and take full responsibility. Blaming others and avoiding obligations is not leadership, it is cowardice. I began to realize this when I embraced my consciousness as a leader. I opened my heart and eyes and discovered that it is my purpose to inspire and engage others rather than to shout commands at them.
Very quickly, I noticed a positive change. Employees were no longer scared and stressed out. They were free to focus on developing their creativity. Even my family members have seen the change and are transforming themselves.
This is a seemingly simple yet powerful engagement tool and the effects are profound. Conscious leaders can recognize the results of their actions. Unconscious leaders will – as I did – go through the motions automatically without thinking of the consequences of a particular action taken.
It is not a leader’s job to pontificate or be arrogant in sharing their knowledge. Rather, a good leader guides his or her team onward. When there is a problem a good leader will not lash out in anger. Instead, he or she will look for a solution to the problem. A conscious leader will collaborate with team members to fix the problem rather than worrying about why it occurred.
The root of every problem in any organization can be traced back to unconsciousness. When leaders become conscious, things change dramatically and everything falls into place. So instead of being the victim, take charge and lead!